Dear Fellow Alienated Stepmom,
If you are struggling, just know that you are not alone. I completely understand where you are at.
You’re tired of seeing the pain that your family is going through. You are exhausted because a parent decided to hate their ex more than they loved their child.
Dealing with the pain of a hostile Biomom can be exhausting. It can be exhausting because you are tired of fighting a battle that shouldn’t exist.
You are exhausted from being the target of people’s anger. Especially the anger of the vindictive Biomom. Being the target of someone’s anger is extremely difficult and exhausting.
You are probably tired of being the reason why the Biomom conducts herself the way she does. I became very tired of that as well.
Having to deal with false allegations of child abuse is extremely difficult to handle. Especially when you can’t defend yourself, it becomes even harder to deal with. It will consume you if you let it. I understand, because I’ve been there too.
Having to tell a woman to listen who is less than civil is nearly impossible. Even though you tried to tell her that you aren’t there to replace her, the Biomom still sees you as a threat.
Approaching a person who had already made her mind up to hate you even before giving you a chance, is annoying to say the least. I understand your frustration because I am right where you are at.
One of the many things that will become typical is constantly being criticized by the Biomom. Even though the Biomom successfully damaged your family she will still watch every move you make.
No matter what you do, it’s not right. Nothing you do as a Stepmom is right. No matter how hard you fight for the rights of your family, it will never be enough. Keep standing up for what is right.
You stay up worrying about the damage that the Biomom is causing to your bonus kid(s). You are concerned about the mental health of your bonus kid(s). I completely understand. I understand this huge concern of yours.
Being an Alienated Stepmom isn’t for the faint of heart. You’ve been given this struggle because you are strong enough to handle it. You’ve got this!
Girl, don’t give up. I understand these are frustrating and exhausting moments. But you will gain strength that you didn’t know that you had. I see you. I hear you. I understand you. I understand your pain.
You are not alone during this battle fellow Alienated Stepmom. You have ever right to be angry but don’t allow that anger turn you into a person that isn’t you. Keep your morals and character intact and be resilient.
From A Fellow Alienated Stepmom