Here’s to another month of setting goals and smashing them. If you have been reading my blogs lately, I’ve taken a different approach to setting goals and achieving them.
This month my goal is to focus on self-care. My reasons for these goals range from drinking water to simply stop giving a fuck about what others say about me and the way they treat me.
This list gets deep but some aren’t as deep as some of the ones do. I share this list with you in order to give you inspiration on ideas on how to set monthly goals.
1. Drinking Water
Drinking water is one of the things I’m terrible about. It’s to the point where my doctor said to either drink something every hour or I need to be hooked up to an IV with liquids. Well, after that discussion I decided that I do not want to be hooked up to an IV bag.
But let’s be honest here. I’m not going to be able to do that every hour so let’s meet in the middle. I can do every 2 hours.
I have a timer set to drink a bottle of water every 2 hours. This will be a new goal for me this month and a reminder on my phone will help me as well. Drinking water and plenty of water is a type of self-care. So that’s why it is listed as a goal.
I’m also in the bad habit of eating when I drink. This is another goal I want to work on.
2. Eating Healthy
Like I mentioned above, I have a bad habit of eating snacks when I’m trying to get plenty of water. Even if I eat the “better for you” chips I’m still noticing that my body doesn’t like the snacking. This has been going on for a couple of months now and I need to stop it. So why not set a goal for not eating any type of unhealthy snacks? Why not? Let’s make it a goal too!
If I want to start eating healthy I have to start with small choices. This is why I’m going extremely fast on this one. Usually I would say everything in moderation, but not this time! Eating healthy is a type of self-care.
3. Stop Giving A Fuck About What People Say About Me
Since 2009 I’ve had a huge struggle to deal with. I had never been lied about in such a way as this. Sure, I’ve had people lie about me but nothing to the extreme of this particular situation.
This situation has to do with the ex-wife of my husband. Since 2009 she has falsely accused me of abusing their daughter. She uses this as leverage in my husbands custody case.
I’ve been tempted to take her to court on several occasions for defamation of character. But I doubt with a court order she would stop the lying.
For years I struggle with this type of an evil person. She controled my mind for years. I had enough of it in 2017. I was tired of her mind manipulation game. I wasn’t interested in being involved with her anymore.
Just like past years, I’m working on this goal. I’m working on not giving a fuck about what other people lie about. I have no control over who and how they lie about me. I think making this a monthly goal will help me at achieving inner peace which is a type of self-care.
4. Stop Giving A Fuck About What Others Think About Me
I’ve struggled for years with my appearance. I was bullied for the way I looked growing up. I had glasses and I was bullied for it. When I was 17 I finally convinced my mother to buy me some contacts. I finally ditched my glasses for a bit. But the bullying didn’t stop there.
Here’s another time that I recall a “big moment” in my life that has stuck with me. There was a big get together and this group of girls were looking at photos from a previous event.
I just happened to be in the photo. One of the girls in the group suddenly out of nowhere said you are the ugliest girl in this group we don’t want you here. That moment was terrifying for me back then.
From then on, I had always been insecure about my looks. I hated photos and I still do to a point. I do not like it when someone gives me a compliment on my looks even if it’s positive feedback. I cringe sometimes.
This has in a way, messed up my inner peace as well. I get too concerned about what others think about me and I get really hard on myself.
This certainly isn’t a good thing for self-compassion. So that’s why I’ve been working on this one since 2017 as well. This goal is always a great one to add to my monthly list of goals.
5. Working Out
Since my Hysterectomy surgery I’ve been out of shape. I’ve gained weight and I’m certainly not happy with it. So instead of complaining about it, I’m going to do something about it.
I’m looking into workouts that are good for beginners. My hips are hurting from my surgery and I think a little bit of exercise would be a good idea to do.
This is just another way for me to help my body. I don’t have to do anything extreme and small steps each month will be just fine. Working out and taking care of yourself is a good way to show yourself some self-care.
6. Less Perfection More Authenticity
Look, I’m not a perfect person. However, I work my butt off to be perfect. I’m a perfectionist. I’m awful about obsessing on every thing I do in order to make things be perfect.
My husband notices these little things and it annoys him. He is constantly reminding me that no one is perfect and I shouldn’t be a perfectionist.
I can’t help it though. The other day I was working on a pineapple design. I totally obsessed about it way too much so I ended up ditching the design.
Ya’ll I can’t do that! It’s not okay to expect perfection from myself. I’m clearly setting myself up for failure. This is why it’s on a monthly goals list. I think this is a good one for self-care.
I hope this list of goals inspired you to create a monthly goal or goals for September! If you have any goals that you are trying to achieve, I hope you smash your goals! I’m rooting for you!