What is self-compassion to you?
Self-compassion for me is not allowing people who are toxic, control my emotions.
I find myself struggling with trying to figure out how I could have done better. How I could have been better for the ones who hate me.
So let’s be honest here.
Look, it’s not my fault that others have treated me poorly. I can’t control that. I can’t control that some people do not have the capacity to see how evil their actions are.
It’s not my fault that I wasn’t enough for them. It’s not my fault that people have to lie about me in order to make me look like the bad evil person.
It’s not my fault that others have to treat me with disrespect in order to make themselves feel better. It’s not my fault that they hate me for some made up reason.
I can’t control what others say about me or to me. So if I can’t control that, then my should my emotions be connected to these situations that don’t deserve my “attention”?
If there are people who make you question your own self love, then you need to get the hell away from them. Don’t spend time thinking about how you could have been better for them.
If someone isn’t happy with who you are, then you obviously don’t need them in your life. Removing toxic people from your life is a form of self-compassion.
Don’t allow a toxic person make you question your own self love. Self-compassion is a must.
When you allow toxic people to question your own self love and you don’t stand up for yourself, then it’s pretty much allowing yourself to be abused.
Defend yourself. Show yourself the self-compassion that you deserve.
If someone hates you, then that’s their problem, not yours! Remember to love yo self!