You will always be the bad guy.
I think a lot of us Stepmoms can agree to this statement. Unfortunately, there are some Stepmoms that have tried their best to be a supportive Stepmom to their bonus kids. But somehow their good intentions were ignored by the Biomom and others too.
Being a Stepmom is difficult when you have a Biomom that hates you for a reason at all. Especially when her hate stims from lies that she created on her own. It’s difficult to be a Stepmom when someone is constantly making you out to be the bad guy.
Even the most important thing that a Stepmom can do is often ignored by the Biomom because of her hate towards you.
Loving a child that isn’t your own is a bold move. Some Stepmoms refuse to love their bonus children while others hope to even be present in their bonus children’s lives.
As a Stepmom that has stepped away due to the actions of the Biomom, I’m still being viewed as the bad guy. It’s a damned if you and damned if I don’t type of situation.
I fought for years for the rights of my bonus daughter and my husband but that was twisted into a bad thing as well.
They blame you for whatever is the topic of their excuses for hating you as a Stepmom. These reasons are clearly posted for many to see. Strangers start to judge you based upon the lies that come from the Biomom.
There isn’t any type of decency here, so the Biomom is most likely not to tell you why she’s so angry with you. She will only talk about you.
Even though the Biomom continues to stalk me online, I’m still the evil Stepmom. I struggled for years and it bothered me for years.
I had to learn that some people are out to destroy everything you have. Even damaging your family is on their to do list. They don’t care because they are out to hurt you because that’s what broken people do.
I’ve had to repeat to myself over and over again that people like this are toxic. You can’t control anyone no matter how bad they are making you feel.
The past few years I’ve learned that hate is powerful and I want nothing to do with it. I’ve learned that life goes on even when the haters are damaging your family. I’ve learned that no matter what I do in going to be the bad guy.
I’ve also learned that when someone is trying to bring me down, they must need me on their level but I refuse to go down with them.
Even though some of us Stepmoms are viewed as the bad guy, life will still go on. Just remember that if someone is trying to bring you down, they are obviously below you.