I don’t understand how a doctor can recommend surgery for a patient and then after the surgery blame the patient for listening to the doctors recommendation for surgery.
I’m beyond baffled with my OBGYN. I’ve had a couple of days to think about what happened on Thursday. However, I’m still trying to figure out how I am the one to blame because I listened to my doctors recommended surgery plan.
Here’s what happened on my appointment for my hysterectomy surgery follow up.
I took a deep breath before entering the doctors office. I told myself things will be just fine. My anxiety wasn’t all that bad. I had talked myself down and watched my breathing in the elevator.
Right as I stepped in the door with no chance to shut the door a staff member rushes at me to take my temperature. She tells me to sanitize in a rude tone. I went to reach for my hand sanitizer in my purse and the staff member snapped at me. She said do not get anything out of your purse. Its not safe. I said then where is the sanitizer? She said look behind you dear in the same snappy tone.
When the staff member went to weigh me she weighed me at 134 pounds. She said that’s decent.
Before my appointment my OBGYN has been super cautious about wearing masks. I was told numerous times before my appointment to wear my mask and that my husband isn’t allowed to come with me. With all of the numerous times telling me to wear my mask, two of the staff members wasn’t wearing a mask.
I get it. I understand the reason why we have to be cautious. But not having the staff wearing their masks all of the time is simply ridiculous when you force it on other people.
So I get into the room and the nurse evaluated me before the doctor came in. I told her I have a pain concern and I am ready to speak with the doctor.
The doctor comes in and I began telling her my issues with my post Surgery pain. She says “Don’t you remember the conversation we had prior to your hysterectomy?” You regret this surgery don’t you?
These were her exact words in a very down talking tone. It was in a tone as if to say you’re getting on to a child. My husband said it was uncalled for.
I am telling my doctor about the complications that I’ve experienced during my surgery recovery time. I’m trusting her to lead me to the next steps and those were her words to me. After all she was the one who recommended surgery.
I’ve felt ignored. I felt unsupported. I felt like my trust in my doctor was gone. I felt like my doctor had zero sympathy or even help for me even as a hurting patient both physically and emotionally. I listened to my doctors recommended surgery plan and I was blamed for listening to Doctor Mills.
Instead of saying let’s see if we can fix it she says don’t you remember what we had talked about prior to your hysterectomy, in a sharp tone.
She continued to be irritated at me. I don’t know why. I gave her my concerns about my HRT and how it’s not working. She said something to the effect that it would be nice if you were a normal person who could handle the HRT patch.
My video chat with my husband lost connection in the doctors office. He only heard the first section of the appointment. He wasn’t too happy about her comments either.
I know I’m not a normal person. I know I struggle with depression, anxiety, and tons of other health issues. I know I’m not normal. It bugs me when people have comments about how I’m not normal and it would be nice if I were. Trust me, I’ve wished for a new body on several occasions.
I made a comment about how I need her to please have an overview of my appointment sent to me like she normally does. She said oh that’s not my job to take notes. You will have to take notes.
I felt completely defeated. I felt let down even though I’ve had many doctors who have failed me. But this one is different. It’s bothered me since my appointment.
I talked to my husband about the situation and he said I’m probably feeling different about this doctor and her behavior because I listened to her surgery plan and I was blamed for taking that path.
He’s right. He’s absolutely right.
He also said that I have every right to fire her and find a new OBGYN. He’s right about that too. I don’t have to go back. I can search for a new OBGYN who will listen to my concerns after a recommended surgery plan. So that’s what I have done. I have fired Doctor Victoria Mills.
I honestly don’t know who else she has treated this way. What kind of doctor recommends surgery then blames the patient for listening to them? Not My doctor. I can tell you that one for sure.
My next step is to contact my primary care doctor and talk to her about the next steps she would recommend. My primary care doctor has been with me since 2015 and I feel like I can trust her despite the recent situation with my now fired OBGYN.