First and foremost is that you should celebrate the dark times that you’ve survived. You can show yourself self-compassion when you acknowledge how far you’ve come. Look back on each struggle that you have had to face and realize how strong and resilient you are. Self-compassion begins when we start correcting the inner critic.
Yesterday and today I’ve been digging around to learn more about self-compassion. There are a ton of resources out there, which is great! Some of them gave me a good idea on how to approach my self-compassion goals. The following notes are things online that I would like to share. I hope it helps you like its helped me.
With self-compassion we mindfully accept that the moment is painful, and embrace ourselves with kindness and care in response, remembering that imperfection is part of the shared human experience.
This allows us to hold ourselves in love and connection, giving ourselves the support and comfort needed to bear the pain, while providing the optimal conditions for growth and transformation.
Keeping a daily journal in which you process the difficult events of your day through a lens of self-compassion can enhance both mental and physical well-being. This exercise will help make self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness part of your daily life.
The yin and yang of self-compassion
According to my work, the three core components of self-compassion are self kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness of suffering. These manifest in “yin” self-compassion as loving, connected presence. Self-kindness means we tenderly care for ourselves when in pain. Common humanity involves recognizing that suffering is part of the shared human condition. Mindfulness allows us to be with and validate our pain in an open, accepting manner. When we hold our pain in this way, we start to transform and heal. When most people think of self-compassion, they imagine the yin version. But self-compassion also has a “yang” form. With yang self-compassion, the three components show up as fierce, empowered truth. Self-kindness means we fiercely protect ourselves. We stand up and say, “NO! You cannot harm me in this way.” Common humanity helps us to recognize that we are not alone; we don’t need to hang our heads in shame.
3 Steps to Self-Compassion
First: Make the choice that you’ll at least try a new approach to thinking about yourself. Commit to treating yourself more kindly — call it letting go of selfjudgment, going easier on yourself, practicing self-compassion or whatever resonates most.
Second: The second step to self-compassion is to meet your criticism with kindness. If your inner critic says, “You’re lazy and worthless,” respond with a reminder: “You’re doing your best” or “We all make mistakes.”
Third: Make a deliberate, conscious effort to recognize the difference between how you feel when caught up in self-criticism, and how you feel when you can let go of it.
-Back to my thoughts on this-
In simple terms, don’t be a prick to yourself! Be kind to yourself. Be more aware of your actions, words, and thoughts about yourself.
You have to be more aware of how badly you’re treating yourself. You have to be mindful of your actions. If you notice that you’re being a prick to yourself you should quickly correct it then find one good positive thing that you like about yourself. This is a thing I started doing and it’s helped. It also builds self confidence too!
Remember don’t be a prick to yourself! Be mindful of your actions. Have a good day!