What does thrive in truth mean to you? I came found this photo with the saying “Thrive in Truth” on Pinterest. It really hit home with me because of a situation that started in late 2008 that I took very personally. It was personal because my husband’s ex-wife made it personal for me.
I always worried and sometimes still worry about people lying behind my back. I’ve wondered what type of lies they were spreading about me. Granted, I’ve had several people lying about me but the one that really struck a nerve with me is the lie about child abuse from my husband’s ex-wife during their high conflict divorce going on. I wasted many years trying to figure out why some people would rather lie about someone and hurt their image instead of raising someone up?
I never understood how someone could be so toxic as to lie about such a horrible thing to a child. Not only was this child abuse allegations but it was also sexual child abuse allegations that came up. In my last blog I mention that my name has been cleared but I’m sure my husband’s ex-wife still runs with those lies that she told the family court system during their high conflict custody case due to lies from his ex-wife.
People who live lies have a difficult journey they live. They have to keep up with stories that they made up, they ruin lives by the lies they tell, they have to keep lying about you to make you look like the evil one so they sleep better at night, and they lie for so many other reasons that I cannot get into because my head can’t wrap my mind around it. Some of these people are so good at lying that they aren’t aware of lying to people. This isn’t something that deserves praise. I could go on for days about how much harm a lie can do. If you want more of those details feel free to read my stepmom blog at Strong Stepmom to read more about this situation.
Even though this lie that the Biomom created has ruined at least 3 lives. First my bonus daughter, my husband, and myself. These false claims are lies. No matter how much the Biomom manipulates people into believing her lies, I have to step back and look at the situation as someone being mentally sick. I mean you would have to be mentally sick in order to lie about child abuse and sexual child abuse. Who in their right mind thinks about a child being abused? Mentally sick people do.
Now let’s back this ship up and take this back to a deeper level so we can personally apply this “thriving in truth” thing. This blog post is for me too. I still have a lot of growing up to do when it comes to toxic people lying about things I didn’t do. Those extreme lies are tough to deal with and I’m sure I’m not alone in this. So how can we make this better because these toxic people will never change.
How can we turn such a bad lie into something good? How can you move forward when others aren’t thriving in truth? Well first off, we stop caring about what toxic people do and say about us behind our backs. Toxic people ruin other people’s lives by lies. This is what they do. This is who they are. Once we see them for what type of a person they are, the pain of dealing with such a harsh lie isn’t so painful. Yes, dealing with false allegations of abuse is difficult but knowing what type of person these allegations came from you start healing from their bullshit that they put you in. So you have to stop worrying about others who aren’t living their truth. It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone is thriving in truth. It’s not your business and it’s certainly not your weight to carry around.